The first falling of the snow in Massachusetts brought with it a job working on one of the Solar Farms for my husband. It was excellent income for us but with the job came hardships as he worked 7-9's in Massachusetts whilst the kids and I lived in Tennessee. The distance from each other was the hardest to endure for both of us. Nightly phone calls (yes we talked every day) left us all emotional, our boys crying for Daddy to come home as they missed him so much (the tears are falling just recalling the memory of those days), Daddy silently crying over their heartache and all that he was missing and Mommy a big mess of emotions that my kids were likely feeding off which didn't help things. I'd like to say the phone calls got easier, less emotional as time went on but I'd be lying if I did. I however did get better at remaining upbeat with the boys while we talked to Dad which did help but they still cried at the end for Daddy to come home. (Oh good golly, I'm an emotional mess just writing this! 3 tissues in already and where is my wine?!!)
|Daddy & his kids- One of our last hikes together before he left.|
|My William & I|
This experience has taught me to extend a helping hand even when it's not asked for. I highly suggest if you know of someone, a single parent or someone having a rough time then extend a helping hand whether it be watching their child/children for an hour or so, bringing them dinner, mowing their lawn or just stopping by to converse and help with any cleaning that may be done. Actions speak louder than words Peeps so don't ask just do it as it's been my experience that we are afraid to ask for help, that when asked we'll say no we got this but inside we're screaming YES PLEASE! Goodness I would have kissed someones feet if they showed up and said hey I'll watch your kids for an hour why you take the shower you've been wanting for the past week or that nap you've been craving since your husband left! Just remember a little kindness goes a long way in saving someone else's sanity!
|Dancing Grandma & Granddaughter|
It wasn't all bad as there were many, many blessings. One of those blessings was in the form of my Mom and her boyfriend coming for Christmas. She met her granddaughter for the first time and as you can see they adored each other. 💗 We did a lot of shopping with kids in tow while she was here and even spent a very cold day at Dollywood in which my boys LOVED riding the steam engine train over and over and over again. When we arrived home from Dollywood I found a gift bag hanging on my door which when I opened it I found a beautiful book of devotions (which we've read through) and a WalMart giftcard for $200! There was no card, no name so it was anonymous. All I know is that it was heaven sent and to this day I'm still astounded at someone's thoughtfulness and generosity towards my family and above all still so very thankful! Presents GALORE arrived from both sides of our family for our kids and all I could think of was "This is to much." I was feeling overwhelmed by it all as it was so much to take in, so much unexpected kindness and love that all I could do was just hit my knees in prayer and praise!
Christmas Eve found me up until 2am wrapping gifts and at 4am I woke up sick. Nothing was staying down and I couldn't stop throwing up. By 5am I knew I was in no shape to take care of my baby let alone my two boys. Had it not been for my Mom coming for Christmas I have no idea what I would have done had she not been a phone call and a short drive away. I missed that Christmas with my kids, didn't get to see them open one gift as I was in and out of it. Worst Christmas ever for me, myself and I but my boys were in 7th heaven according to my Mom. I have no idea what had happened as I felt fine at 2am when I went to bed but boy oh boy whatever I had hit me hard that day. I started to feel better around my kids bedtime that evening so Mom and her boyfriend left and ended up heading home that following day. Hmmm...do you think it was the watching my kids part that sent her home early or that I had been sick and they didn't want to catch it? 🙈🙊
|These were the presents from our families to our kids.|
The 3 months without my husband was hard on all of us so we were so very blessed when he came home January 15, 2017! This year he experienced his first Halloween, Thanksgiving & Christmas with his daughter who is now 17 months old. This Christmas found two sets of Grandparents making a surprise visit for Christmas and two excited grandboys who didn't want them to leave or for Christmas to be over with. 😊 My daughter finally warmed up enough to blow kisses as the Grandparents were leaving.🙈
|Left: Robert's Parents;Right:My Mom & her Boyfriend|
|Daddy & His Girl (First Christmas together) Photo Credit:Nelya||.net/Instagram|